Dear Future Husband,

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:2-3

Hey my beloved, I hope all is well with you… I am writing you to tell you thank you.  First and foremost, I would like to say THANK YOU FOR NOT BEING AFRAID OF ME.  I had been single for a long time before I met you and I had been the head of my household for forever and I know I can come off as bossy but you came and showed me that I did not have to do it alone anymore.  You became my partner, my friend… and you showed me that it is ok for me to be vulnerable and to allow someone to help me.  

Thank you for sharing your life with me and including me in every part of your life. Thank you for accepting me as flawed and scared as I am and thank you for loving me flaws and all. Thank you for being my friend FIRST and understanding why it was so important for us to build our friendship before we could start a relationship. I know that getting to know me wasn’t easy due to my unwillingness to trust and I know it was damn near impossible to get through the walls of steel that I built around my heart that were protected by rabid pit bulls but you did. Thank you for your patience with me. I know that loving me isn’t easy due to my anxiety issues and my insecurities… I know I have the ability to overthink somethings and I know it drives you crazy but thank you for always reminding me that I am safe with you. Thank you for protecting me… keeping me secured and giving me confidence in knowing that you will always have my back. It is important to me that my life’s partner is able to watch my back and protect my crown. Thank you for your loyalty to God, yourself, me, Keeghan, and our marriage. Thank you for your gratitude for everything that I do for you… I know it doesn’t go unnoticed or unappreciated. It feels good to be appreciated.

Thank you for pushing me off of every cliff and encouraging me to step outside of my comfort zone professionally and personally.  Thank you for being my coach, trainer, partner, and my cheerleader.  You believe more in me than I believe in myself at times.  

Thank you for helping me grow spiritually. You are a wonderful man of God and your prayers and sacrifices for our family are more than appreciated.  Thank you for being the leader that you are.  You are leading our family in the direction to an overflow of blessings and unconditional love.  When we met I told you that “If you can tell me what to do, then you can tell me what to do… but if you can’t tell me what to do, then you can’t tell me what to do.” -Jill Scott (see video at the bottom)… and from the beginning I learned quickly that you can most definitely tell me what to do.  Thank you for praying with me and for me, for lifting me up even when I don’t have the strength to uplift myself.  Thank you for being my peace… my own personal sanctuary… our love story is not perfect but who cares because perfection is overrated anyway.  I appreciate all of the gifts and surprise trips and dinners out but you know what… the at home dates when cook together and the time spent watching football together in our sweats and t-shirts are moments I will cherish for a lifetime… the unplanned quality time moments are the best.  

Some mornings when I wake before you I stare at you sleeping peacefully and I thank God for making such a wonderful man JUST FOR ME… he took everything that I needed and a lot of what I wanted and placed it all in you…. YOU ARE SO DOPE.  Know that I will follow you where you take us because I believe in you and know that I have your back… the areas in which you lack I will go twice as hard… we will NOT lack anything as long as we are a team.

Thank you for loving Keeghan the way that you do.  Thank you for accepting him as your own… and I know he loves you just as much as I love you.  Thank you for being his role model and mentoring him. The guys’ trips, conversations, the constructive criticism, the redirecting of his actions and words are exactly what he needed in his life.  I hope he takes all of your good qualities and apply them to his life so that he can be a GREAT MAN just like you.  

I know without a shadow of doubt that you want what’s best for our family (you, Keeghan, and myself)

My prayer to God is for him to make me everything to you that you are to me and more.  Thank you for making me feel like I am the only woman in the room… thank you for being my “ONLY FANS” groupie🐵🙈🙉🙊😜. 

A woman once told me that you should marry a man that loves you more than you love him… and I know how much I love you and for me to think that you love me more than that is such a huge blessing.   

These words alone are not enough to express how grateful I am to have you in my life… but I hope my actions tell you every single day.  

I promise to never stop being your girlfriend… we will die in love and live forever! 

I love you deep my beloved.

Love,

Your friend/girlfriend/wife 

Lynn, The Chic Educator 🍎

Excerpt from The Breakfast Club interview with Jill Scott.

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